Apparently, my thoughts of going to a coffee shop or hiking don’t qualify as a “real date” according to my sister. While I realize this is just another attempt by her to try to get me to spend more money in the minimum wage challenge, it did get me thinking about how one does go about determining what is a date rather than a casual meeting. This is the conversation that we had:
Sister: “Going to the coffee shop isn’t a real date.”
Me: “You’ve got to be kidding me…”
Sister: “Seriously. Going to the coffee shop is a pre-date. It’s a time to decide whether you’re compatible enough to go on a real date.”
Me: “I don’t think there is such a thing as a pre-date…”
Sister: “That’s because you don’t know anything about dating. A real date requires a meal, not just a beverage.”
Sister: “If you go out and do something where you consume a full meal together, then it’s a date. So, if you go to the coffee shop and talk for an hour and there is no spark so you go your separate ways, that isn’t a date — it’s only a pre-date. If you go to the coffee shop and talk and you’re both interested in each other, then you’ll decide to go to lunch to keep talking and it becomes a date.”
Me: “What about hiking?”
Sister: “It’s the same rule. If you go out for a meal after the hike, it’s a date. If not, it doesn’t count. It’s just a walk together.”
So, what do you all think? What determines if a date is a “real date” rather than a time where you’re figuring out whether or not you want to go on a date? When two people meet, is that automatically considered a date or is there something that turns a meeting into a date? When do you consider a date to be a date?
I lied a little in my post yesterday about the contents in the refrigerator. While it certainly was as empty of food as the photo I took, there was one more thing in it:
Inside was a Safeway gift card for $40 with a note that said, “We didn’t want you to starve to death! — Amy & Jen” Of course, as soon as my sister heard about the gift card, she immediately claimed that it would be cheating if I used it. Her argument is that both Amy and Jen know about this blog and challenge, so they bought the card just to help me out. She claims that they wouldn’t have purchased it for me if I wasn’t doing the challenge. Besides, $40 means that I will have a lot of extra money left over since I will only be house sitting for 4 days and I won’t spend nearly that much during that time.
While I completely disagree with my sister and believe that I should be able to use the full amount of the card, I decided that I would compromise. I will use the card for food while I’m house sitting, but any extra amount left over won’t be used for myself in the future — instead I will use it to buy food for a local food shelter. This seems reasonable to me since I was able to eat without spending money on my first two house sitting jobs, but they also didn’t give me another couple of weeks worth of food for me to take home when I was finished.
Now, the temptation was to go out and buy $40 worth of food and eat really well during my stay here just to jab my sister a little, but I decided that would me be doing something merely to annoy my sister. Instead, I went for something more typical. I took a walk to the store (only about 1 mile away) and I bought myself a $5.00 whole chicken, a few cans of soup (on sale for $0.99 each), a loaf of bread ($1.49) and five bananas ($1.69) for a total cost of $12.15. That, when combined with some of the food that is at the apartment, should easily last me the four days. I will go to buy food for a food bank with the remaining $27.85 on the card. Since the gift card paid for the food, I had another no spend day.
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(Top photo courtesy of anemoneprojectors)