Apparently I have a lot of friends and acquaintances who believe that, much like my sister, I should be dating someone. I’m not sure exactly how I feel about this, but after I mentioned that my sister thinks that I should go out on dates as part of t...
Hmmm tough choice, but I’d go with the coffee shop and the second date (assuming there is one) I’d go on the hike.
Agreed with DC. The coffee shop is much more safe if you don’t “click.” If you click at all, I think the hike would be a great second date.
I like the hike idea. Personally I would be a bit stressed out having to sit in a coffee shop forced to make conversation. The hike would be “doing something” and conversation would come more natural to me in that setting. That’s just me I guess.
I don’t agree with you guys, I’d rather hike. At least if it gets awkward you can hike a bit faster and stop talking for a while, while still being busy. In a coffee shop you just sit and stare at the person and wonder what to say, the outdoors provide countless opportunities for small talk.
Jeffrey – Do you have a hook up at the coffee shop? Could you get a b1g1 free drink or a drink card buy 5 drinks get one free? (that would be beneficial if you have more dates with other people). Take initiative to pay before hand.
Me personally being a girly girl I would not want to go on a hike just yet. Maybe say lets go to the park. Then show up with goodies for a sunset picnic, or a bag of bread to feed ducks at a pond. Then, volunteer at a walk/race together. Don’t let on about the challenge, total killer. Good luck and tell sis GAME ON!
As a female, I’d be more wary to go off alone with someone I just met. I think there is some of that element too. I just wanted to clarify my thinking a little bit. I actually dislike coffee and drinking, and I would also rather go on a hike, any day. But it is a first date. & it’s hard to call – because sounds like some of the females would prefer the hike – others would not or would be more cautious. Maybe you should just ask her what *she* would prefer. & keep the hike short – yes – for sure.
For a first date I would go for the coffee shop, it will give you both quick out if there is no chemistry and/or common values. As for other ideas have you ever heard of Letterboxing? You can check it out on Letterbox.org. Another idea is for you to participate in a volunteer activity, I live in Southern California and there is always beach/river clean-ups, not to mention the food bank or organizations that help out military families. Picnics are good, you can even include wine, 2 buck chuck is always available at Trader Joe’s. Honestly I wouldn’t really care about how much a guy spends on a date, it would be a treat to participate in an activity that someone else thought of and executed.
Coffee shop for sure. It isn’t like after getting to know each other you couldn’t head out on a hike half way through your coffee.
Definitely a coffee date. A hike is too much of a time investment if you want an “out” if you two just don’t connect. Plus, what girl wants to get all sweaty and icky when trying to make a good first impression?
There is no way I would go on a hike alone with someone I didn’t even know. Definately the coffee shop, a nice, safe, public place.