A friend of mine was lamenting her inability to gracefully bow out of events and outings that she can’t really afford.
“When my friends invite me out to dinner at a pricey restaurant or out to the movies, I hate to say no, but things are so tight around here that I can’t really afford to go,” she said.
I told her that it was better to decline and save the money than to go and end up beating herself up over the waste.
“I know, but I just don’t want them to know that I can’t afford it. I don’t want them to know how much we’re struggling.”
That was the crux of the problem. Not being able to go was one thing, but having to tell her fri...