Learn to Be Alone Without Shopping

Many of my friends and family members are single. Some by choice, some because they haven’t yet met the right person, and others are divorced or widowed. With very few exceptions, they turn to shopping to fill a void in their lives. They aren’t comfortable being alone, so hitting the mall allows them to get out and about with other people. Either they meet their friends there, or they go when they can’t find any friends to hang out with. It’s not uncommon. Many people can’t stand to be alone and they don’t know what to do with their time. Shopping can make the lonely person feel better. You’re around people, the lights are bright, and there’s l

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5 Responses to Learn to Be Alone Without Shopping

  1. rob62521 says:

    I think you are correct…people often confuse things with happiness. I have a friend who isn’t happy unless he’s buying something — he’s apparently trying to fill a void in his life.

  2. larabelle says:

    I can not say enough about the positive aspects of getting a pet. I am single and my dog is wonderful company. He is not cheap but he is alot of fun and having a dog is alot cheaper than shopping to avoid loneliness.

  3. Isela says:

    Bingo!

    Being single and a compulsive shopper un recovery I understand perfectly what you have written.
    I used to go almost everyday to the shopping centers just to kill time, and I ended with a lot of debt and still feeling bad.
    Also, having new thing all the time proves to the world that you are better off than everybody else….yeah right!
    I am happier and healtier without the compulsive shopping.

  4. Jaime says:

    I think I must be the opposite. As a single person, there are times I get lonely but going out by myself amongst crowds of people shopping in pairs or groups does not make me feel less lonley. Being the lone single person in a crowd of pairs and groups just makes me feel more single. At least it does if the only reason I’m out somewhere is to be around people and not be so alone. If I’m actually shopping for something, or going to a museum to view the art or have some other reason to be there, then I don’t notice my single status so much if at all.

    But I don’t shop much for entertainment either even though my acquisitive nature takes a keen pleasure in buying things.

  5. Gail says:

    Funny you should write this as i was looking through a magazine, Birds & Bloom, today that my MIL had given me. One story was about a man that was on a quest to see 1000 different bird species. Looking at that article I thought how could anyone ever be bored in our world. There are so many things to do for hobbies from rock collecting to growing a garden to sewing and mountain climbing.

    As Jaime mentioned when I was single, I actually felt more alone in a crowd. But whether alone or as part of a couple, everyone should fill their lives with at least one hobby that they find interesting and that makes them more interesting. Singles getting into a hobby will find others doing it also and then might actually find their soul mate who likes the same things they do.

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