Comments on: Lessons From Father’s Day

By: Gail

Gail — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 17:11:14 +0000

I find that in the last few years we rarely plan things as our health always sneaks in and gives us a rude HAHA gotcha! My hubby was so pleased that one of my sons took the time to call him and wish him a happy Father’s Day which meant more than anything could.

Since my sons come from a ‘broken’ home, rather than playing tug of war as to where these adult men should go or do on special days, I let them tell me what they want and when and accomodate myself to them and their needs and in the long run I think that is what is important. I’ve seen to many families fighting the ‘custody’ issue long after the time is past.

I feel for the wife that you mentioned in the end. That is the kind of c**P my ex would pull whether it was father’s day or not. Nothing made him happy and he was always mad at the world because it didn’t make him happy–obviously a losing proposition.

By: Chris

Chris — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 13:37:44 +0000

I would plan an event around what I thing the person that the event is for likes to do. If anyone planned an event for me, I would very grateful!

By: alex jordan

alex jordan — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 22:42:42 +0000

It’s more the thought that counts. I’m sure the guest of honor appreciates any effort that goes into a celebration on their behalf.

By: Ann

Ann — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 15:09:32 +0000

Hmmmm. No parents left, one brother who, though I love him dearly, lives in a totally different world from my day-to-day reality, so I guess that leaves just friends.

One friend lives a 45 minute drive, a bunch live 2+ hour drives and the rest are scattered around the US. Doesn’t leave much opportunity for getting together! When we do, I attempt to take their interests into consideration and they attempt to make sure that I’m not driving the 2+ hours home in the middle of the night. I definitely appreciate, and let them know it, when they rearrange their schedules in order to meet me for lunch, when I go back to see a doctor or my mechanic. If they come out here, I try to give them a taste of why I like living in the country and some of the history of the area, if they’re interested. (David, you’d be taken to the park where there’s a statue commemorating one of the famous Lincoln-Douglas debates. LOL)

As for my brother…. well, his schedule reminds me of my corporate days or maybe even a little bit worse ’cause I always thought that “as soon as I finish this project….” my life would slow down. He knows his won’t! So I give him a lot of leeway and understand why he thinks we just talked a month ago, when it was actually 6 or 9 months ago! I appreciate occasionally talking to him and ANY effort he makes.

In the past, I’ve planned celebrations and get togethers. When I did, I tried to make it something the person it was planned for would enjoy… sometimes, part of the “gift” is my doing something I wouldn’t normally, so that they could do something they would like.

I knew I was a tad isolated in my current life, but I don’t think I realized how much until you asked this question! ROFL