Lessons From Father’s Day

Father’s Day has come and gone. My family dutifully celebrated my status as “Dad” by going out for breakfast and, later in the day, ice cream. In deference to the day, no one complained when I ordered only coffee for breakfast and passed up the ice cream as I am trying to drop a few pounds. All in all, it was a pleasant day, once my elder son accepted that I was not going to be seen in public with him dressed like a recently deceased refugee from some apocalyptic nightmare.

If truth be told, I would have planned Father’s Day entirely differently. For one thing, my sons and I would have worked in the yard for about 6 hours before we went out to eat. My wife, however, d

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4 Responses to Lessons From Father’s Day

  1. Ann says:

    Hmmmm. No parents left, one brother who, though I love him dearly, lives in a totally different world from my day-to-day reality, so I guess that leaves just friends. :-)

    One friend lives a 45 minute drive, a bunch live 2+ hour drives and the rest are scattered around the US. Doesn’t leave much opportunity for getting together! When we do, I attempt to take their interests into consideration and they attempt to make sure that I’m not driving the 2+ hours home in the middle of the night. :-) I definitely appreciate, and let them know it, when they rearrange their schedules in order to meet me for lunch, when I go back to see a doctor or my mechanic. If they come out here, I try to give them a taste of why I like living in the country and some of the history of the area, if they’re interested. (David, you’d be taken to the park where there’s a statue commemorating one of the famous Lincoln-Douglas debates. LOL)

    As for my brother…. well, his schedule reminds me of my corporate days or maybe even a little bit worse ’cause I always thought that “as soon as I finish this project….” my life would slow down. He knows his won’t! :-) So I give him a lot of leeway and understand why he thinks we just talked a month ago, when it was actually 6 or 9 months ago! I appreciate occasionally talking to him and ANY effort he makes.

    In the past, I’ve planned celebrations and get togethers. When I did, I tried to make it something the person it was planned for would enjoy… sometimes, part of the “gift” is my doing something I wouldn’t normally, so that they could do something they would like.

    I knew I was a tad isolated in my current life, but I don’t think I realized how much until you asked this question! ROFL

  2. alex jordan says:

    It’s more the thought that counts. I’m sure the guest of honor appreciates any effort that goes into a celebration on their behalf.

  3. Chris says:

    I would plan an event around what I thing the person that the event is for likes to do. If anyone planned an event for me, I would very grateful!

  4. Gail says:

    I find that in the last few years we rarely plan things as our health always sneaks in and gives us a rude HAHA gotcha! My hubby was so pleased that one of my sons took the time to call him and wish him a happy Father’s Day which meant more than anything could.

    Since my sons come from a ‘broken’ home, rather than playing tug of war as to where these adult men should go or do on special days, I let them tell me what they want and when and accomodate myself to them and their needs and in the long run I think that is what is important. I’ve seen to many families fighting the ‘custody’ issue long after the time is past.

    I feel for the wife that you mentioned in the end. That is the kind of c**P my ex would pull whether it was father’s day or not. Nothing made him happy and he was always mad at the world because it didn’t make him happy–obviously a losing proposition.

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