A Debt Free Life: The Value of Debt Free Friends

In the process of making out my Christmas card list for the year, I was struck by how many of our close friends are also debt free. I’ve never given it much thought, but there it was. We didn’t plan it this way, it just sort of evolved over the years. Like any sort of friendship, we share a common bond with these people. We understand each other’s goals and the things we have to do to make those goals happen. It’s much harder to bond with someone who shops a lot and lives well above their means. As a result, over the years many people that we were “friends” with earlier in our lives have fallen by the wayside because it just got harder and harder to find c

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10 Responses to A Debt Free Life: The Value of Debt Free Friends

  1. Yes, Sadie, associating with debt-free friends teaches us the wisdom of not burying ourselves in crazy debt!

    John DeFlumeri Jr

  2. Sandy L says:

    I’m working on the debt free thing. My favorite thing about my like minded friends is the sense of community that comes from working together towards a common goal. People will help my mom pick berries so they can get a share of the jam. They’ll help you move, fix something, cook, etc.

    We know that it’s just a matter of time before the favor will be returned. It’s such a wonderful way to live vs trying to do it all yourself or pay someone else to do it.

    I don’t need 60 cans of currant jam..and I sure don’t want to spend days picking, cleaning and canning. When the task is divided up, it’s so much easier and enjoyable.

    Also, there seems to be more flexibility in living debt free. I usually always have the ability to drop what I’m doing to help someone who needs a hand. Perhaps because my activities that I originally planned don’t cost me anything if I postpone them to another date.

  3. MommyMel says:

    I agree with you 100%. It goes with the saying “Birds of a feather”. After I had my financial wake up I found myself becoming a bit of a loner in that the majority of my friends did not share my new viewpoints and focuses. The other side of the coin is I’ve made some great new friends as I do meet folks who are o the same mind.

  4. Diane says:

    This makes sense, as you’re going to hang out with people who do the things you like to do. If you don’t shop for recreation, you’re not going to have much fun with someone who thinks that’s a good way to spend the weekend.

    This applies to other things as well. As non-smokers, we find that we have no friends who smoke…

  5. Nicole says:

    This does make alot of sense. I seem to be experiencing the other side of this equation – working towards debt freedom w/ only 2 friends who feel my pain! The result is me feeling like I’m constantly defending myself. It’s rough being the “cheap” one amongst my young, pleasure-driven friends and co-workers.

  6. Mrs. Money says:

    I think it’s interesting that all of my friends are in debt. It’s fun to talk with them about their plans to get out of debt though! I really enjoy trying to help them.

  7. bryan says:

    I agree with you 100%, Sadie. It’s important to be surrounded by friends and even online communities where we are all working to be/stay debt free.

    Getting out of debt with a group of other people help with the process of getting out of debt.

    If being broke and living paycheck to paycheck is normal, than I want to find a group of like-minded people who are doing something different with their finances.

  8. Betty says:

    It does seem that we surround ourselves with people who have like interests and values. We are working on becoming debt-free. Wish we were there but with our updated plan we have a clear path. There is a great book by Anthony Manganiello called “The Debt-Free Millionaire”. It helped us identify where we are and where we want to be. We liked it so much we’re giving a copy to our friends for Christmas!

  9. Minny says:

    Nicole makes the point, it is uncomfortable having to constantly be at odds with the group you hang out with. Much easier to find others who want to live the same way.

  10. Betty says:

    Here is a working link to the book I mentioned above (comment 8).

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