Frugal Love

Romance doesn’t come wrapped in red foil and stuffed in a heart – shaped box. Chocolate is nice but not the best idea for someone watching their weight. And while we’re on that subject; one size does not fit all, so be careful buying clothes for your loved one. When it comes to making a woman feel special, it really is the thought that counts.

So guys listen up – women like little corny things just as much as they like big extravagant presents. You can make this a Valentine’s Day to remember and it doesn’t have to empty your wallet. I’m going to share a few frugal ideas with you, but feel free to improvise and kick things up a notch with your own personal touch.

Have your love’s car detailed or do it yourself: Make sure the inside is as clean and nice as the outside. Don’t forget to include a nice scent that you know she will enjoy. Add the ultimate guy touch and check all the fluids, tire pressure and fill the gas tank while you are at it.

Take a day off and clean the house from top to bottom: A nice, sweet, clean house is a known aphrodisiac for many women.

If there is a list of chores that she has wanted you to do for months, now would be a good time to complete that list. She doesn’t like to nag and you don’t like to hear it. Clearing away the chores makes way for other, more pleasurable pursuits.

If she has a favorite hobby or pastime but doesn’t get to indulge in it very often, show her that you care by either creating leisure time for her or purchasing a gift card that she can spend however she wants: This is a thoughtful endearing way to let her know you understand and support her interests.

Do something just for her: It has to be something that you wouldn’t normally do, like agreeing to watch that chick flick with subtitles and let her sob on your shoulder when the wimpy hero dies.

Create an evening or off day with absolutely no pressures or distractions: Turn off all phones and let her rest, even sleep if that’s what she needs. Order takeout or prepare a simple meal, draw a hot bath and lay out her comfy clothes. Don’t let her lift a finger to do anything. She will appreciate the opportunity to rest and recharge.

Treat her like you did when you were first dating: Try to remember what it was like way back when. Open doors for her and extend more than just common courtesies. Look into her eyes and tell her how pretty she is. Flip the switch on that old, boyish charm and let her have it full force.

If you feel you must succumb to commercialism and buy her flowers, at least consider something beyond roses: A potted plant is nice and it keeps on giving. If she has a favorite flower, like daisies or carnations, show that you are paying attention and buy those instead of roses. From the frugal aspect of flower buying, you’ll find that a discount store such as Wal-Mart or grocery florist will have much cheaper flowers that are just as pretty as an expensive florist. Or consider giving her one perfect rose in her favorite color – one perfect flower for your one perfect love.

Recreate a special shared memory: Be it the spot where you had your first kiss or the first time you said I love you. Every relationship has memorable moments. Show her you treasure those moments as much as she does. Women adore this kind of stuff.

Ask her what she wants: Snuggle up in a comfortable spot, turn off the TV and find out what she really wants. Look deep into her eyes and reconnect. It may be that simply spending some quality time together is all she needs. Time is a cheap commodity but sadly lacking in many busy relationships. Give her your undivided attention and reap the rewards.

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7 Responses to Frugal Love

  1. Oh NUMBER 2 NUMBER 2 *raises and waves hand frantically*

    And beware, be aware, consider ANYTHING that has calories. Yes, I love chocolate and have no diet but you DON’T have to make it harder.

  2. Michelle says:

    Do you have any tips for what gals can do for guys? I’m trying desperately to figure out what to get for my Future Husband.

  3. Michelle, this is kinda a no brainer.
    1. Turn down the lights
    2. Put on some soft music
    3. Spray a little scent around (this is mostly for you)
    4. Make a good dinner, or not
    5. Answer the door in your birthday suit.

    Alternatives for #4:
    Meet in the shower, bubble bath, or not

    you get the idea. guys are easy.

  4. ThiNg says:

    I can give you some guy tips:

    1. Give him a nag-free coupon. Valid for one day where you can’t nag about anything. No comments period. If you need to, don’t be in the house!

    2. Clean your own d*mn car!! We hate doing it. I would wet myself in happiness if I got into her van and it was spotless!! If the oil light is on, do something about it!!Ok, I’ll settle for her telling me that the light is on…

    3. Take the kids out of the house for a whole day. Take them someplace that doesn’t cost me money and they don’t bring any crap back from!

    As for the whole sex thing, it’s just as cliche as roses and chocolates. Catch me off guard 2 days before! We like new and exciting as well. Take some pictures before hand. Put them in with my lunch (they don’t have to be x-rated).

  5. minny says:

    I like it, I like it!

  6. Pev says:

    Nice ideas! 🙂 very sweet and thoughtful. As a female, I totally approve this article. 🙂

  7. Gail says:

    Valentine’s Day is also our anniversay–7 years this year of being very happy. Sad to think someone would need to give a nag free day coupon.

    On OUR day, one of the things we do is read our marriage vows, that are printed out, framed and hung on our bedroom wall, to be sure that we are keeping them and to encourage each other that we are being the wife/husband that we should be. Telling each other thanks for being a great spouse.

    If we can we try and go out on a date, but due to the part of country we live in, we don’t feel driving through a blizzard to go out for the evening proves our love for each other. Also we each have health problems that can prevent us from going out. We do try to have a nice meal and spend quality time together.

    Bake Valentine cut out cookies. I don’t make them at Christmas so that if I have the energy to make them on Valentines it is more special for him as they are one of his favorite cookies.

    Flowers are nice in the middle of winter, but as the other poster noted, they don’t have to be roses. Buying flowers just a day or two ahead of the day, or at a place other than the florists keeps them cheaper than buying and having flowers delivered on the day. Have a nice vase that you can fill with flowers. Our vase is one that held one bouquet of roses for our wedding, so it has special memories also.

    I made a quilted heart wall hanging several years ago that is hung for a month or so.

    One year I printed out colored Valentines and taped them up all over the house for him to see, including one on the bathroom mirror that got left up for a long time.

    Simple things that show you care, love and are thinking about him/her adds much to the day.

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