Comments on: Money & Spouses - What Would You Do?

By: ScruffyMoo

ScruffyMoo — Fri, 29 Jun 2007 22:41:21 +0000

If your wife doesn’t have a credit card and she only has a limit of 5000 on her overdraft why not limit the overdraft to less. Or why not have all the money going into one account and each have a separate account which a certain percentage of the money is shifted into each month then no one can overspend as you both only have a limited budget. When its gone its gone but you still have the bill money in the combined account which requires 2 signatures to touch.

By: Consumerism Commentary: A Blog About Personal Finance

Consumerism Commentary: A Blog About Personal Finance — Mon, 01 May 2006 03:51:12 +0000

Carnival of Personal Finance #46

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By: markio26

markio26 — Wed, 26 Apr 2006 21:13:18 +0000

i think only one person in the marriage should handle the finances.. i would buy gift cards and give to her… and allow her only so much for an allowance..

By: Frugal Momma

Frugal Momma — Wed, 26 Apr 2006 10:50:50 +0000

I am sadden by this as well. Money breaks up so many marriages and it is usually do to a lack of communication about money. I have seen several of my friends divorce because of money issues. Maybe the best issue for him is to have his and her accounts. Maybe the wife will get the pciture then.

By: makingourway

makingourway — Wed, 26 Apr 2006 08:21:51 +0000

I’m saddened by their tragic situation.
I think they’ll have a very difficult time with such different philosophies.
If they can’t align their views I don’t think they’ll have much happiness together.

regards,
makingourway

By: ~Dawn

~Dawn — Wed, 26 Apr 2006 02:00:18 +0000

If money breaks up so many marriages, then more people should be seeing a financial advisor, before marrying, and not a priest or paster.

Finances are about understanding plus making it a win/win as much as possible. It looks like both of these people are about what they want and not about understanding.

By: Bellen

Bellen — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 23:38:55 +0000

Very sad commentary - I wish more couples getting married would go thru some serious financial counseling before marriage. Maybe they would not be in the same place now. There is probably more going on - control issues, lack of self-esteem, etc. Do hope they find the solution and soon.

By: Max

Max — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 17:55:33 +0000

She might be filling a void by conpulsively shopping. That void can be sex-related, or lack thereof. May be they should just re-visit “Debbie Does Dallas” together.

By: brcmapgirl

brcmapgirl — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 15:36:58 +0000

Sounds like there is a real problem here. Lying is a terrible thing to do in a marriage for any reason. I think they need to go back to a counselor and try this again. There is more than money going on here if there are two captains for this boat and their navigation sense has them going in opposite directions.

Deception equals lack of trust. And what kind of foundation is that for a marriage?

By: Miserly Bastard

Miserly Bastard — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 15:01:59 +0000

Thanks for the link. I checked out the blog pretty quickly. Not going to end well, I’m afraid.

I dont know how to deal with this, particularly when you love your spouse and you have a kid. Very tough spot.

I think the best way for that blogger to get ahead is to get his wife on his team. He’ll never be able to secretly scrimp away $20 a week when his wife can run out and do 10k in damage on the cards.

If they work together, they can solve the problem. If she wont change, and he wont fight the difficult fight to make her change, they will end up bankrupt and divorced.